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Care for your sub

by Lady Leigh December 9, 2015

One night after a long play session we were sitting on the couch talking. She stretched her legs across my lap and I began rubbing her feet. She smiled, sighed, and laid back contently. At that moment I thought back to my earlier times in the lifestyle when I wouldn’t …

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Negotiation Presentation Recommended Reading List

by Lady Leigh December 9, 2015

Recommended Reading Please keep in mind that all of these books and articles were written by fallible human beings, each with their own background and biases. Do not take any one book, website, or article as being The Truth: read widely, think critically, experiment carefully, and make up your own …

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Kissing is the most intimate way a sub can submit to a DOM…

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2015

I love to have sensual, passionate make out sessions with a really cute sub who really knows how to kiss, submissively… I will bring my lips close to hers, but just out of reach and off limits… teasingly, to show her my Dominance. At this early stage, her role is …

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November 9, 2015
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The Acid Tests (Sorting real Tops from fakers)

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2015

This is an article I wrote for “Power Lines” back in 1998, it’s somewhat dated now but I’m still surprised how many requests I get to repost it. Since I have space here to do it, I thought I might as well for convenience sake. It still expresses some philosphies …

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Advice for Footmen

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2015

1. Most women that post pics of their feet aren’t interested in meeting you or fulfilling your fantasies On Fetlife if your not able to see a woman above her ankles. 2. Most women that contribute are everyday women not models, so because she participates in the community doesn’t mean …

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Immediacy is Not Intimacy!

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2015

I’m not a patient person. I don’t have any problem admitting that to you. When I really want something, I don’t want to wait for it. My mindset is that I’m going to take what I want and I’m going to make it mine. But immediacy doesn’t make it intimate. I think that’s what …

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The Emotional Empath & Submission

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2015

Imagine if you felt what other people felt. Imagine intuitively knowing where people come from. Imagine seeing people for who they really are (whether they can see themselves or not). Imagine seeing all the wolves dressed as sheep and sheep dressed as wolves. Imagine if all your interactions with others …

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November 9, 2015
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Negotiation and Consent Myths, Part 2

by Lady Leigh October 9, 2015

Okay, I’ll go ahead and admit that I stacked the deck in part I of this post. I deliberately put most of the myths I figured a lot of people could get behind there, and then shoved all the ones that I figured people would argue like hell with me …

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Negotiation and Consent Myths, Part 1

by Lady Leigh October 9, 2015

In my not-so-humble opinion, there are a lot of myths about consent and negotiation that float around our subculture. There are so many, in fact, that once I started writing about them, I found that I had too much to say, and I had to divide this post in two …

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How can I make them be the perv of my dreams?

by Lady Leigh October 9, 2015

Compatibility is a crucial component of a successful relationship. Communication ranks right up there with it. Face it, if you both love liver (shudder) but you assume your partner doesn’t because their mother is a founding member of the Coalition Opposed to Liver Eaters, you’re never going to ask to …

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