Resources and Education

You hear so much about negotiation and how important it is for your safety.  Negotiations play a huge role in what it is that we do, both lifestyle and vanilla. …

Polyamory: Best Books & Resources You have the right, without shame, blame or guilt: In all intimate relationships: -to be free from coercion, violence and intimidation -to choose the level…

At the LoftNC, we teach and talk a lot about consent.  We strongly express that consent is a YES – only positive consent is consent.  No is NO and Maybe…

• Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #1 – ‘Communication’ • Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #2 – ‘Triggers’ • Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #3 – ‘Actions…

Recommended Reading Please keep in mind that all of these books and articles were written by fallible human beings, each with their own background and biases. Do not take any…

This is an article I wrote for “Power Lines” back in 1998, it’s somewhat dated now but I’m still surprised how many requests I get to repost it. Since I…

Okay, I’ll go ahead and admit that I stacked the deck in part I of this post. I deliberately put most of the myths I figured a lot of people…

In my not-so-humble opinion, there are a lot of myths about consent and negotiation that float around our subculture. There are so many, in fact, that once I started writing…

This article was linked on Fetlife and I thought the information and thoughts the author invoked were invaluable for anyone considering or engaging in poly dynamics.  Article/journal entry shared here…

Introduction The term ‘Acid Test’ is an old prospecting term. A powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. However, gold will stand up to most…