Resources and Education

You hear so much about negotiation and how important it is for your safety.  Negotiations play a huge role in what it is that we do, both lifestyle and vanilla.  …

Polyamory: Best Books & Resources You have the right, without shame, blame or guilt: In all intimate relationships: -to be free from coercion, violence and intimidation -to choose the level …

At the LoftNC, we teach and talk a lot about consent.  We strongly express that consent is a YES – only positive consent is consent.  No is NO and Maybe …

• Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #1 – ‘Communication’ • Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #2 – ‘Triggers’ • Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #3 – ‘Actions …

Recommended Reading Please keep in mind that all of these books and articles were written by fallible human beings, each with their own background and biases. Do not take any …

This is an article I wrote for “Power Lines” back in 1998, it’s somewhat dated now but I’m still surprised how many requests I get to repost it. Since I …

Okay, I’ll go ahead and admit that I stacked the deck in part I of this post. I deliberately put most of the myths I figured a lot of people …

In my not-so-humble opinion, there are a lot of myths about consent and negotiation that float around our subculture. There are so many, in fact, that once I started writing …

This article was linked on Fetlife and I thought the information and thoughts the author invoked were invaluable for anyone considering or engaging in poly dynamics.  Article/journal entry shared here …

Introduction The term ‘Acid Test’ is an old prospecting term. A powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. However, gold will stand up to most …