Dungeon Rules

Dungeon/House Rules

SSC, RACK, PRICK

The LoftNC supports both Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC), Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK) and Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink (PRICK) ethos in regards to all BDSM play.

Anyone who chooses to participate in activities at The LoftNC is aware that scenes may cause risk to those participants and as such participants are encouraged to negotiate scenes thoroughly with their partner.

Membership

The LoftNC is a Members Private Social Club for events and socials.
A Membership sticky is posted with additional information. Members are expected to follow all rules. Failure to do so will result in your being asked to leave the premises, membership will be revoked and is non-refundable.

Negotiations

The LoftNC requires the parties intending to play share their negotiations with the DM who will be watching the scene. This is for your protection and ours.

RSVP is required for all events so that we have a head count.
The first time you attend you will need to complete both the COVID Waiver and the Non-Disclosure & Release of Liability Waivers. Following Acceptance of the completed Waivers, an email will be received from WaiverForever providing additional information, including location. (NO, our address will not show up on any MAP program. If you MapQuest without the address you will not end up at the LoftNC, you’ll wind up at a caterer- oops!). Once you have been given the address then you only need to purchase your ticket for future events. Members are allowed to bring a guest but need to RSVP for their guest(s) and purchase a guest ticket. Members and guests are expected to keep the address of the LoftNC private. DO NOT SHARE THE LOFTNC ADDRESS

Sex Positive – yes sex is allowed!

As a Private Members Only Club, sex is allowed at the LoftNC during most events or socials if negotiated. If you want sexual touch or sex during or after your scene, YOU MUST NEGOTIATE such activities. Be aware that the LoftNC does not have any private rooms – so you may (will) have an audience as there are voyeurs among us! *NO naked butts on the furniture! Please use blankets and/or towels and clean up when you are done.*

NOT A SWING CLUB

DO NOT COME IF:
– you are seeking sex
– you want to have sex
– you want to watch sex
– you want to masturbate
– in other words if you want to watch sex or have sex you are coming to the wrong place. We are not for you. Try http://swingtowns.com/like/theloftnc.

Scene Etiquette

Normal scene etiquette is required (i.e., Do not interfere with a scene, do not invade scene space, etc).
-Please keep conversation, laughter and comments to a minimum around the play areas – please be aware that sounds carries and your conversation may not seem loud but may cause a disruption of scene or demo taking place.
-Do not monopolize the equipment.
-Do NOT join a scene unless it has been negotiated prior to the start of the scene by all parties involved.
-No touching of any property, toys or person that does not belong to you without express permission of the owner.
–Do NOT interrupt aftercare of parties who have just completed a scene. Aftercare is an essential part of what we do and allows for recovery time for the bottom. Aftercare time includes after scene cuddles, snacks, getting dressed, and the parties taking care of each other. Do not attempt to discuss the scene with them until they are obviously recovered (outside conversing with others for example) and ask if they are up for conversation before launching into your need or want. They come first.

In addition, please read Blog posts Etiquette & Courtesy during scene time and Basic Etiquette.

Safewords

RED is the recognized safeword for stop, and YELLOW for caution.
If a safe word is called and the scene is not stopped, a staff member or DM may intervene to stop the scene.
If you are planning to play beyond red or if Red is your stop implement but *banana (for example)* is your all stop safe word, please tell the DM this prior to beginning scene.**

Types of Scenes Allowed

Types of Scenes Allowed – most scenes are allowed with a very few exceptions or guidelines as follows:
*Knifes and needles*, *Wax*, *Primal/takedown*, and *Suspension* are permitted provided such scenes are made known to the staff prior to the scene beginning. *If you are planning a scene that could be considered high risk, you are requested to consult with a staff member or the DM on duty prior to starting the scene.* If you are planning a messy scene, please discuss with staff or DM so proper measures can be taken to “DEXTER” the areas.

*Planned Punishment Scenes* PLANNED intensive punishment scenes intended to deal with behavior that occurred outside of the LoftNC, often in advance of the planned punishment date and where such infraction did NOT happen on LoftNC property, are strictly FORBIDDEN. These types of scenes have been a cause for concern to the membership and community in the past, thus the restriction.
This restriction does NOT preclude on-the-spot punishment for behavior that takes place at the LoftNC and does NOT include “funishment” scenes.

Forbidden Items

No liquor, firearms, weapons, nor illegal substances of any kind are allowed.
Alcohol (other than beer/wine) or illegal drugs are FORBIDDEN on LoftNC property with NO exceptions. If you appear to be high or drunk you will be asked to leave. Currently we do allow beer or wine (BYOB/W) during open play parties and Sunday classes/demos within reason, however, we reserve the right to withdraw this allowance if it becomes a problem and we ask you to drink responsibly – remember that drinking slows responses and is not recommended before or during play. **If the Event post contradicts this rule then the Event post prevails for that Event.**

Age

Age is 18 and up
Previously the LoftNC was restricted to 21 and up, however, we have changed this age to 18 to allow for our next generation of members to have opportunities for social interactions, mentorship and education.

Cleaning

Cleaning supplies are available throughout and all equipment should be cleaned after use.
Towels and sheets are also available as are aftercare blankets. **Please no naked butts on the furniture.** Leave all equipment free of sweat, blood, other bodily fluids, wax, toys, etc. Bodily fluids may include perspiration, blood, vaginal secretions, semen, urine, and other substances. Safety precautions are strongly encouraged, and all bodily fluids must be cleaned up upon completion of the scene.
If blood occurs during a scene, the scene stops immediately while it is cleaned and covered to prevent airborne pathogens.

Bathrooms

We have a bathroom on each floor. Downstairs bathroom is at the foot of the stairs. Please turn on the fan light if you are concerned with being heard as the walls were not insulated at the time of construction. Do NOT flush anything except toilet paper as we are on a septic system that can be finicky at times.

Stairs

Please be quiet when going up or down the inside stairs as you may interrupt a scene in progress. Footsteps echo so be mindful.

Smoking

Smoking (cigarettes/pipe/cigars or vape (non THC) only) is allowed on the deck only.
Please discard your butts in the ashtray provided. If you choose to smoke downstairs, please discard your butts in a garbage can and not in the yard.

Dress Code

Vanilla attire is required outdoors at all times.
Once inside you may dress or undress as you desired, kink, little or nothing. If you need to go outside to smoke on the deck, please cover up before doing so. We don’t want to draw unnecessary attention from the neighbors. Vanilla attire is considered appropriate for grocery shopping, mall, movies, etc.)

Waivers of liability

Digital Waivers of Liability to the LoftNC and its staff must be signed for participation at any event, class or social. Digital COVID Waivers are also required prior to attending any event, class or social. Links are provided on every event post.

Cell Phone/Photo Policy

You must have your cell phone on silent in the dungeon areas at all times and cameras must have blue tape covering all lenses. The updated PHOTO POLICY can be found here:  https://fetlife.com/groups/63797/posts/8429736.

Donations

Donations of water, sodas, snacks, drinks, cleaning products, household items, and skills are always welcome.

Rental

The LoftNC is available for rent by the hour to those who require a dungeon play space and equipment for such scenes or overnight if desired. Please contact LoftNC@gmail.com for rates and availability.

The LoftNC is also available for rental for group or private parties. If you are attending a TNG or a NQONQY event being held at the LoftNC, be aware that the Rules of the host group prevails.

Questions

When in doubt about any rules, please find a staff member or Lady Leigh. We will be happy to help you.