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Flogging 101

by Lady Leigh March 9, 2015

“How to Flog” gets asked a lot on FetLife. Instead of writing a new answer each time, I figured I’d write this and just post the link from now on. It’s a guide to the basics, intended for beginners. Should you take a flogging class? People will legitimately disagree about that, …

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BDSM and Trust

by Lady Leigh March 9, 2015

BDSM is a practice of handing over the care of your body to another, or someone else is giving control of their body to you. One of the things that many BDSM lovers say drew them to BDSM is that it is the ultimate experience of trust. When you are …

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March 9, 2015
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https://fetlife.com/users/3410624/posts/2823482

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You, Sir, are a Top, NOT a Dom!

by Lady Leigh March 9, 2015

If, when asked about your skills as a Dominant, you can only cite your mad flogging skills, your badass caning, or your unparalleled whipping skills, YOU ARE A TOP! You might be a great top, even the best top this side of the equator, but to be a Dom, your …

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March 9, 2015
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http://www.justiceschanfarber.com/marriage-why-women-leave-cheat/

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Why women leave men they love – What every man needs to know

by Lady Leigh January 30, 2015

As a marriage counsellor working with men and women in relationship crisis, I help clients navigate numerous marriage counselling issues. While many situations are complex, there’s one profoundly simple truth that men need to know. It’s this – Women leave men they love. They feel terrible about it. It tears …

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January 30, 2015
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http://www.cassiopaea.com/cassiopaea/emotional_manipulation.htm

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Eight Ways to Spot Emotional Manipulation

by Lady Leigh January 9, 2015

There is no use in trying to be honest with an emotional manipulator. You make a statement and it will be turned around. Example: I am really angry that you forgot my birthday. Response – “It makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I …

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January 9, 2015
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What I’m Saying

by Lady Leigh January 9, 2015

When I say “I want to be tied up” what I’m really saying is “I want to trust you enough to let go.” When I say “I want to be slapped” what I’m really saying is “That sting makes me feel real.” When I say “I want be spanked” what …

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January 9, 2015
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The Art of Kneeling

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2014

Kneeling has various social and religious connotations going back centuries, Christians, Hindus and Muslims alike all use one form or another of kneeling, as a sign of reverence, respect and obeisance to their respective deity. It has appeared in royal courts for centuries with bowing or kneeling your allegiance to …

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November 9, 2014
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6 Totally Normal Things Young Girls Do When They’re Discovering Their Sexuality That No One Ever Talks About

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2014

DISCLAIMER!!!: I didn’t write this!! I just like to share things that are informative/funny/relate able for me 🙂 Here is the link to the original writing. You should go read it there cause it’s funnier with the gifs lol : http://www.bustle.com/articles/47513-6-totally-norm… Originally written by: Kat George This week it came to …

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November 9, 2014
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The Cave

by Lady Leigh November 9, 2014

“Wow, that’s a neat cave for you’ve built out of torn pillows seeping feathers, ragged blankets and splintered furniture. May I join you?” you said, peeking in through the front of my fortress. You asked so nicely and actually COMPLIMENTED my cave, how could I not say yes? So you …

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November 9, 2014
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Basic Etiquette

by Lady Leigh October 9, 2014

Basic etiquette and manners matter in daily life and in lifestyle as well! Treat other people as you’d like to be treated. Golden rule usually works really well, however, when in doubt, don’t! Some guidelines to remember when meeting new people at any lifestyle event, making new friends, chatting, or …

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October 9, 2014
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