Contributed Writings

At the LoftNC, we teach and talk a lot about consent.  We strongly express that consent is a YES – only positive consent is consent.  No is NO and Maybe …

• Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #1 – ‘Communication’ • Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #2 – ‘Triggers’ • Epilepsy and BDSM – A dangerous combination? #3 – ‘Actions …

She. Stands very still. Watching him flit about from place to place. Absentmindedly playing with the keys. Her finger rubs the cool metal and trace every detail of the ridged …

This book case….from Sauder, Model Number 410890, looked pretty good, all packed up in a nice box with a beautiful pictuer of assembled picture of the said bookcase, complete with …

Ah loneliness, it’s been quite sometime since we’ve spend time together. I’ve tried to keep you at bay. I’ve kept myself busy. I haven’t answered when you come calling. Yet, …

by Cowhideman,, https://fetlife.com/users/76887 What do you do when someone asks in their very first contact message, something like “What are you into?” or if after a couple of exchanged messages, wants …

Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and …

The sheer scope of selfishness I encounter daily truly still shocks me. It seems our humanity is chipped away as we strive for more things, more prestige, more power, more …

Yes – you – the one sitting in front of your computer screen, reading these posts and wondering if you can ever be involved. You can. Yes – you. I …

1. Submission isn’t as easy as it looks. There is so much more to submitting than knowing how to cook, clean, and follow directions. You will have to let go …