How to Communicate & Negotiate for a Fulfilling Scene
How to Communicate & Negotiate for a Fulfilling Scene
How often do you find that someone can actually read your mind and tell what you need or want and when you need or want it? Me either!
That is why open and honest communication is so vitally important in relationships and especially in a D/s dynamic.
This discussion will encompass how to open up, how to tell your Dominant or
submissive what you need and want. How to have those difficult discussions that delve deep into your kinky side. Without good communication you won’t get the scene or play you crave.
Most submissives hate to use yellow or red for fear of disappointing the dom or top. They don’t understand that its for their safety, that they control the scene. Safe words are also for the protection of the Top/Dom, it enable them to know when something is too much or not enough and to check in with the bottom.
Let’s use these skills to build a great scene.
PRESENTER:
**Lady Leigh began her lifestyle journey as a submissive with her husband of 44 years. During their journey they were fortunate to meet others who taught them how to play safely. As a way to give back, she is dedicated to the presentation of education for the community & firmly believes in “each one teach one.” She travels to teach because it’s just that important. She is the owner of the LoftNC, a Studio and Social Club (http://www.loftnc.com) in Gastonia (just outside of Charlotte) which gives the community a place to come play and to receive education and support in a healthy and safe manner.
She is also the co-owner of http://www.SoaringEagleCreations.com with her partner, MSquared- and together they produce wonderful leather toys for your kinky pleasure.
COVID
If you are feeling any of the symptoms of COVID or if you have been in close contact with someone diagnosed with COVID PLEASE STAY HOME. If you think you’ve been around someone who has been in contact…STAY HOME.
DO NOT COME IF:
- you are seeking sex
- you want to have sex
- you want to watch sex
- you want to masturbate
- in other words if you want to watch sex or have sex you are coming to the wrong place. We are not for you. We are not for you. Try SwingTowns.com/like/TheLoftNC.
When:
Doors open at 1 pm, demo begins at 2 followed by open play until 8 pm.
Tickets or Online Purchase:
You may purchase your $20 tickets and $30 membership via one of these methods – add note to designate event date:
Guest Ticket MUST be accompanied by a member.
Event Ticket
Venmo @LoftNC
Cash app $Ladyleighloftnc
PayPal loftnc@gmail.com
Zelle 704-964-1923
What to Bring:
Please bring a dish or snack to share. Donations of water, soda, k-cups, paper products, cleaning supplies are always welcome.
Membership:
The LoftNC is as private members only BDSM club and was founded to provide a safe and secure environment for our members and guests. Please note we are a BDSM club NOT a Swing Club. The location of our club home is provided only to our members and attendees and is not available on any maps or search engines. Help protect the groups’ privacy…please do NOT provide the club location to anyone. Please direct interested parties to our website at http://www.loftnc.com. All ticket sales, membership dues and donations help defray the costs of keeping the LoftNC.
Paying your membership is a requirement as we are a private club with membership rules that allow us to have the type of activities we enjoy. Membership for the year is $30 and renews on your anniversary date. In order to expedite check-in at the event, we request that memberships be purchased in advance. Membership: you can add or renew your membership along with your event tickets purchase or buy separately here – Membership.
Vetting
Because we are an educational venue we do our own vetting as we firmly believe that no one should be denied the ability to learn and grow. The LoftNC is a SAFE SPACE free from judgment and drama and we work very hard to maintain it as such.
Waivers:
If you have already completed your waivers you do NOT need to do them again. Information email including address provided with completed and accepted Waivers. Address to event will be provided via email from WaiverForever upon acceptance of completed waivers.
Links for Waivers to be completed prior to arrival at the LoftNC are:
1 -Covid Waiver: https://waiver.fr/p-Ou8GL
2 -Event Waiver: https://waiver.fr/p-GjJ3o
Discord:
You may join our discord @https://discord.gg/EG89ddBtKs. Keep in mind you will remain in newbie status until membership is paid, waivers are completed, and you have attended an event. Discord is for chat between members, making friends and staying linked in with happenings at the LoftNC. There is a strict NO DRAMA or JUDGMENT rule on our Discord.
Alcohol:
BYOB/W (beer or wine only) – please drink responsibly. Please note if hard alcohol is brought to the LoftNC you will be asked to leave.
Prohibited Items
No drugs, not 420 friendly, no hard alcohol, and no guns of any kind including tasers are permitted on LoftNC property at any time. Bringing such items will result in your being asked to leave and your membership revoked.
If you have any questions, please email LoftNC@gmail.com
