When I first started scening I was focused on what I was doing... What implements I used, the bottom, where my strikes were landing.
Those things are still very important but over time, I've learned how important touch is. I have become freer with using my hands and body for touch. I've learned the power of touch. Because the connection is so important to me I scene with people whom I've built that connection with. Can I top? Of course... But the connection... There is no replacing that. Without connection I leave the scene feeling empty. There is nothing worst than an unhappy unfulfilled sadist. See I don't just get off on inflicting pain... The connection makes it fulfilling.
Touch creates connection. Without connection the scene is technical. You can do everything right but there is no connection.
Touch builds trust. It says I am here. I've got you.
Touch soothes. It calms the mind and cools the skin.
Touch is the reward for a cycle of pain.
Touch is healing. It says I care. I hurt you but I will help make it better.
Touch says you are not alone. I think one of the greatest tragedies in life is feeling you are alone. It is an emptiness at the end of a hard day, week or month. It is learning how to self soothe. It is what so many call being strong,it is darkness in your soul.
I'm not a clingy type. I've never been big on public displays of affection. But touch... Oh touch... Skin on skin. That's where the power is.