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An OutCry for Help from the BDSM Community

As we all know divorce and custody battles are expensive, but what my BabyGirl's ex-husband has done is beyond extreme! Our sexuality and consensual participation in BDSM activities have been used against us in the most unsavory of ways.

We need the BDSM community and any other help we can manage to find to help fix the wrong and help insure this never happens to another person again!

Here is our story:
On July 23rd 2013 my girlfriend was contacted by Caldwell County NC Department of Social Services stating that they had received a complaint of abuse regarding her children and that they needed to visit my house to which she had recently move after being kicked out of her house by her estranged husband to insure the safety of the youngest child.

The initial complaint was that I had "suspended my girlfriend from the ceiling by her wrist and beat her half to death, to which the oldest child (8) tried to rescue her after breaking out of the locked bedroom and was then himself tied up bondage style and beaten with a multi-colored "BDSM stick" by his mother and left laying on the couch while we forced him to watch us have sex."

This is where everything SHOULD have stopped! The band new 24 year old investigator they sent found that the child was perfectly safe and watching cartoons, the boys bedroom had no door, and that my girlfriend did not have bruises or other marks consistent with physical abuse. (which was also confirmed by two doctors examinations prior to (pure chance of luck) and directly after the report.) The only thing she did find was that we did indeed have a collection of toys and rope contained in my bedroom closet after searching my residence without a warrant or my consent using my legal possession of firearms as a reason to gain entry and search. The youngest child was left in the care of his mother until they spoke with the oldest child and his father at which point they returned again later that night with two police officers again without a warrant or court order and removed the child to place them "temporary" in the care of their father giving a verbal 72 hour window.

It became clear later on that most likely the children's father had obtained copies of pictures taken at a play party 4-5months before I ever met her children and either intentionally or through a lack of supervision had exposed the oldest child to them and was coaching the child on what to say. We fought DSS and false criminal charges brought on by a child psychologist hired by DSS and the boys father who can't be wrong cause she's "been doing this for 27 years" and "children don't lie!" (still wondering if she has ever really met a kid after hearing that one) for a period of almost 9 months and through a total of 31+ escalating known false allegations that supposedly happened over a 7 day period before DSS finally concluded that there was no evidence and closed the case as unsubstantiated.

It has taken every penny we both had to our name to fight DSS and complete all of the psychological evaluations (6 psychologist in total) and requirements from DSS to prove in fact that we had not hurt or exposed her children in any fashion to our lifestyle and that neither of us posed any risk to children. By chance of luck and through having fun with her boys there are piles of pictures which have helped us disprove the lies and impossibility of the accusations that were made.

After over a year of being separated from their mother with no visitation the custody case is finally being allowed back in custody court. The boys father is still holding them hostage and refusing contact with their mother even after DSS ordered re-integration with their mother. We have everything very well documented that this has been a fairly clear cut case of sexual discrimination and parental kidnapping. (3" binder of physical and photo graphic evidence)

This is where I am crying out to the community for help!

1. We need awareness that our lifestyle is not dangerous to our children!

2. We need better acceptance and understanding from the psychological field in regards to our sexuality. I was diagnosed as a sexual sadist (go figure and yes there is a formal test for that! lol) and my GF was diagnosed as a masochist and that neither of us was a danger to any child. (Did we really have to spend roughly $11,300 to confirm we were kinky like we told them to start?????)

3.We need Federal protection for our sexuality just the same as other protected classes so that this never happens to another person in the community or their children.

Our current focus is on covering the remaining custody cost we are currently facing and then I intend fully on seeking out a proficient civil rights attorney to move forward to gain at least some level of federal protect for our lifestyle. Most of the benefit to the community will be based on legal actions against the initial child psychologist that confirmed physically impossible allegations as reality without any regard to common sense or practicality even after being given physical evidence that the allegations had to be false. To give you an idea of the level of physical evidence we have, the social worker that was managing the case parting words to us were "there is absolutely nothing wrong with either of you!" "I laid everything out on my living room floor and tried to make any of it work, it just doesn't and y'all have one heck of case if you pursue it." (God hearing that warmed my heart btw!)

If you can help in any way financially (even if its only a dollar it would be greatly appreciated!) my girlfriend has set up an account to accept any donations that anyone wishes to make, the url is http://www.gofundme.com/9t4qqs

There is also more detail of the craziness we've faced and a message from Miranda who is a loving mother who had her children ripped from her arms simply because she doesn't fit social norms behind closed doors! I'm not sure how the comments there work but it is linked back to our vanilla friends so please use tact if you comment there!

Regardless of if you can or can't help with the legal battles that are brewing please hug your children tight and give them a huge kiss when you tuck them into bed tonight and click the love it button or leave a comment so that our story will spread so that no one else ever has to go through the same heartbreaking reality we have just cause they are kinky...

Thank you and best wishes,
Ryan aka LovingNcMaster

PS: if you lead a group here on fet you are welcome to copy and paste this message if you feel it is worth sharing there...
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